My Prayer...

At this point of time in my life, this is my only prayer:

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can;

and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;

Enjoying one moment at a time;

Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;

Trusting that He will make all things right if I surrender to His Will;

That I may be reasonably happy in this life and supremely happy with HimForever in the next.Amen.

Trust in the LORD with all your heart

and lean not on your own understanding;

in all your ways acknowledge him,

and he will direct your paths.

Proverbs 3: 5-6

Article!!

I read an article about relationships n stuff. Here are a couple of secrets, or rather guidelines that i got from the article: -

The Power Of Respect

You cannot love anyone or anything unless you first respect them.

The Power Of Giving

If you want to receive love, all you have to do is give it! The more love you give, the more you will receive. To love is to give of yourself freely and unconditionally. Practice random acts of kindness.

The Power Of Friendship

To find a true love, you must first find a true friend. Love does not consist of gazing into each other's eyes, but rather looking outward together in the same direction. To love someone completely you must love them for who they are, not what they look like. Friendship is the soil through which love's seeds grow. If you want to bring love into a relationship, you must first bring friendship.

The Power Of Letting Go

If we want to learn to love, we must first learn to forgive and let go of past hurts and grievances. Love means letting go of our fears, prejudices, egos and conditions.

The Power Of Communication

When we learn to communicate openly and honestly, life changes. To love someone is to communicate with them. Let the people you love know that you love them and appreciate them. Never be afraid to say those three magic words: "I Love you." Never let an opportunity pass to praise someone. Always leave someone you love with a loving word - it could be the last time you see them.

The Power Of Commitment

If you want to have love in abundance, you must be committed to it, and that commitment will be reflected in your thoughts and actions. Commitment is the true test of love. If you want to have loving relationships, you must be committed to loving relationships. When you are committed to someone or something, quitting is never an option. Commitment distinguishes a fragile relationship from a strong one.

The Power Of Trust

Trust is essential in all loving relationships. Without it one person becomes suspicious, anxious and fearful and the other person feels wrapped and emotionally suffocated. You cannot love someone completely unless you trust them completely. Act as if your relationship with the person you love will never end. One of the ways you can tell whether a person is right for you is to ask yourself, "Do I trust them completely and unreservedly?" If the answer is "no", think carefully before making a commitment.

My Feedback

I agree with the guidelines. All of 'em. But there are certain concerns i wish to share. With regards to the "power of respect", i personally think that it is essential that we respect the ppl we love; physically, emotionally, spiritually; If we cant respect them in these areas, its impossible that we love them.

With regards to the second guideline which is, the "power of giving", its very true that we need to first learn to give, before we recieve. "To love is to give of yourself freely and unconditionally", is a great statement however, its not necessary that even after we've given freely & unconditionally, that we may recieve anything. Its a risk to take. We could end up recieving a hundredfold, or juz end up with nothing, but no matter wat the results maybe, the focus is always on GIVING not recieving. To me personally, though i didnt recieve anything regardless of how much i gave, i never stopped giving, coz that's all that matters.

The "power of friendship". This is something that i've always lived by. I dun believe in love at first site. All relationships should begin with friendships. But then again, not every friendship, no matter how close you've become, may move to a higher level. Sadly, a small number of them, the unfortunate ones, reaches a level where "friends are all we will ever be".

To summarize my thoughts on the remaining guidelines; Its true that we need to let go of one's 'accidental' or 'purposeful' sins againts us, coz we've equally sinned againts others as well. Commitment & Trust is essential too. We have to be committed to each other's life, as well as commited to trusting each other. I guess the bottom line is, you outta be 'selfless' towards the other person, if you say you love them. As mentioned above, sadly, even after fulfilling or rather faithfully following these guidelines n more, there are a small number of unfortunate ones that end up with nothing, allowing others to walk in simply and take away years of dedication and devotion, probably juz coz they have the xtra element that you couldnt provide, which could be financial security & property ownership n such.

The working world!

FiRsT WeEk @ WoRk

Well, my first week at work was kinda fun. The office is superb. The working space is really neat n nice. The pantry has a bar setup, but unfortunately they don't serve liquor... hahaha. My work hasn't really started yet. Still reading some documents related to work, n 2mrw onwards i'll be doin technical training already. So, if all goes well, i'll be hands-on by friday. This area has a real future for me. Really thank god for putting me here. Made a couple of frens. In fact, i knew them before i joined the company d. So its not so lonely..... hehehe. The only set back is, the travelling expenses are crazy, coz the office is situated in cyberjaya. Currently my working hours are 10am to 8pm, but i dun work on Mondays. According to my boss, my 12hour shift work will start next month, but i'll only b working 3nights/days a week.


"Either Or"

I learnt a very valuable lesson this past few weeks. Actually i've been exposed to this lesson many times already, but i never really analyzed it thoroughly. Well, most things in life, its EITHER you have it, OR you don't. Its often an "EITHER OR" situation. For example, in Music, its EITHER you have it OR you don't. There are born musicians, and there are made musicians. A 'made musician' can only go so far in his musical 'so called' talent. This is because, music happens to be his weakness instead of his strength(born with it). Therefore, no matter how hard he works on his 'self-developed' or 'made' talent, he can only go a certain distance. Where as, a born musician, is born with his musical talents, n it happens to be his strength. Therefore, he just needs to work n develope that 'born-with' talent, n he'll reach places...

Well, that was juz one example of an "EITHER OR" situation. The lesson i learnt was about the 'either or' situation in the following example. If two ppl of the opposite sex were to spend an ample amount of time with each other, there's a huge possibility that both of them might become emotionally attached to each other. In other words, they'll grow to love each other's company n attention. It doesn't mean that they have fallen in love with each other, its juz that, they've reached a level where they're very comfortable with each other's presence. In simpler terms, they just love hangin out with each other. Once this level has been reached, its very risky for both parties to carry on in their 'relationship', as feelings of both parties will grow. And this is where the "either or" situation kicks in, as they are only two areas their feelings can grow towards. Its EITHER one party eventually falls in love with the other, OR one party reaches a state where the other party is such an amazing FRIEND, and thats it. If both parties were to fall into the same category of any kind, which in most cases it does, it will be amazingly beatifull n joyful, coz the feelings are mutual.

The tragic part is, if both parties were to fall into different categories; this would cause chaos in their relationships n especially in their hearts. However, situations like this are unavoidable. Those who unfortunately end up in situations like this, their only choice would be, to make the best of it, and move on in life, coz nothing's gonna change a state of mind/heart that says, "he/she is an amazing friend, but thats it, nothing more!".

I read this once; when you fall in love with someone, its EITHER you have it, OR you don't, towards that person. But rest assured, there will be someone that you'll come across, where watever you have, will be sufficient. Read it in some online thingy. Cant remember where or when. Cant remember the exact sentence, but the gist of it is the same.

ELI n Such!!

woa! haven't been bloggin' for a while now. Well, lotsa things happened in the last couple of weeks. My holidays are almost up :'( (the last OFFICIAL long holiday of my life)! Oh no!! My work starts on Monday! Get this, my work's gonna start in a couple of days, n i've no idea what are my working hours, or how's my job like, or who am i suppose to see when i go to the office on Mon, n i dun even know where is my office!! Crazy ey? Well, my mum's HR ppl are not giving me the info i need!! But anyway, will go find the way to the office on sat, n juz see wat happens on Mon... hehe

I went for this ELI camp last friday. Can't remember what ELI stands for, but its a leadership camp organized by GMT (Global Missions Team). The camp was not open to everyone, its only for those that they invite. We stayed in a house in cheras. I attended this camp with Clarance, Anna, and Pei Yin. It was an awesome experience. At first when i reached there, i was like, OH NO, i dun think i'll survive three days here. The environment wasn't very "friendly", as in, all 12 guys had to sleep in the hall, on the floor, n the girls had to sleep on some dusty, scary beds upstairs, n we had to have our baths really early in the mornin (coz the session starts early) n there was no water heater, therefore we had to shower in ICY COLD water!! The four of us were speechless. Then, when we looked at the schedule, we almost fainted!! It was scary! We only had like an hour break in the morning (6am - 7am) for breakfast, n an hour break for lunch, and an hour break for dinner. The rest of the day from 7am to about 12am is juz non-stop training sessions, and prayer, and praise & worship!

At first i regreted coming. But as the sessions started, it was getting better n better. Overall, the camp was excellent. The tight schedule wasn't an obstacle, it was an honour. I had the privilige to meet God evry minute, and the experiences were superb. I guess, i can speak for all of us when i say that the camp made a difference in our lives. The tight schedule and intensive, overload training & exercises were actually really fun & superb. On the second day, during one of the sessions, they gave us a field exercise, where we had to break into two groups and be dropped off at two different areas in KL and to get our survey done. They dropped off one group at Chow Kit, and the other at SOGO shopping mall. Those that were dropped in chow kit were suppose to get a survey done on Godly sexuallity, and the other group had to study on The Influence of Media. We had to attain the answers to our research questions, by observing the environment, and interviewing the ppl, including the prostitutes and the transexuals at chow kit. Clarance & Anna were in the chow kit group. I & Pei Yin were in the other group.

There were also about another 16 campers at the camp, not including the facillitators. Most of them were foreigners from Nigeria, and China. It was a great experience, n the ppl there were really genuine, nice ppl. We loved it, although we were knocked out of our COMFORT zones, literally! haha...

well, in case you're wonderin, we didnt come back as pharisees or some religious freaks... haha... we're still the same genuine, down-to-earth, god-lovin' PEOPLE! hehe.... But we're humans n we have our flaws, n this camp gave us the opportunity to allow God to deal with these flaws.